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Chapter № 014 58:06

the parasocial trap

This episode started as a conversation about parasocial relationships. It became something else.A parasocial relationship is one-sided by definition. You invest real emotional energy in someone who doesn't …

Chapter № 013 1:05:34

trying harder doesn't always work

In this episode, I pick up a thread I first noticed in episode three and finally understand it properly.For most of my academic life, the times I tried …

Chapter № 012 53:44

confidence is just performance

In this episode, I finally talk about the thing I said I wasn't ready to talk about in the last one. The fear that lives in romantic situations …

Chapter № 011 57:40

fear was always the point

In this episode, I do something I probably should have done sooner. I name the thing that's been running underneath every single episode of this season.Fear.I get into …

Chapter № 010 55:51

when self awareness becomes self censorship

In this episode, I pick up where the last one left off, because the same tool that lets you understand yourself can also be turned outward and used …

Chapter № 009 56:55

when language gives you a mirror

In this episode, I get into something a bit lighter after the last couple of heavy ones, but it's still personal.I talk about growing up bilingual, and how …

Chapter № 008 1:00:14

confronting the shadow self

In this episode, I get into something that gets thrown around a lot in spiritual and self-help spaces: shadow work. But rather than the mystical version, I want …

Chapter № 007 40:26

self awareness in the body

In this episode, I get into something I think a lot of people carry around quietly: the relationship between self-awareness and the body. Specifically, my relationship with my …

Chapter № 006 19:25

the problem with being perceived

In this episode, I talk about the idea of being perceived, and how something as small as a throwaway comment can completely shape the way you see yourself.From …

Chapter № 005 20:24

to be cringe is to be free

In this episode, I talk about why “cringe” is often just confidence we haven’t built yet. How secondhand embarrassment can be a reaction to visibility, vulnerability, or joy. …

Chapter № 004 13:43

free will is reason enough

In this episode, I talk about a realisation that slowly settled with me: free will is reason enough. I reflect on why we feel the need to justify …

Chapter № 003 23:39

no one is coming to do it for you

In this episode, I talk about the moment a very simple realisation finally clicked for me: no one is coming to do it for you. I reflect on …